The Experiments of Life

The older I get, the more I realize that life is quite simply a series of experiments.

Each of us are constantly figuring out what works and what doesn’t work in the things we do every day.

Whether it’s hobbies, relationships, work, or friends, everything is a learning experience. We start with an idea, test it, then go with it or abandon it.

I went into college thinking I wanted to be a computer science major, but when I took programming classes, I realized it wasn’t for me. It was an experiment that proved that computer science just wasn’t my thing. Now I’m in the business school and doing work that I find so much more interesting.

The same thing also happened to me with swimming. I got recruited to swim for my college, but after my freshman year, I decided to leave the team. It was an experiment that proved I would be happier doing something else. Now I have more time to work on exciting projects, read, and write.

It’s this experimentation that helps us grow. With each experiment, you get a better understanding of what works for you individually.

And despite what some people may tell you, there isn’t always a right and wrong answer. It’s different for everyone. A lot of people told me that it is a must to play a sport in college, but even though I had a lot of fun, it just wasn’t for me. What might work for one person may not work for another. It’s just about getting a better understanding of yourself.

The only way to figure out what is best for you is to experiment for yourself. People can give you advice on what they have learned, but you really don’t know until you personally try it. Experiencing something firsthand teaches you a lot more than what someone else tells you.

You’re going to mess up, and that’s okay. You’re going to lose interest in certain things, you’re going to have failed relationships, and you may want to change directions. Of course, it’s not ideal that I had to change majors and quit the team, but that’s okay because I’m now doing things that are making me happier. It’s valuable to know that those pursuits weren’t for me.

The most important thing is that the losses you experience can help you succeed the next time. Failure is one of the best teachers. It’s like when you’re little and you touch something hot for the first time, and burn your hand. You didn’t know that it would burn your hand, but now you have the knowledge to not to do it again. It’s the same thing with life. There are going to be things that you want to continue to do and things you want to stop. But the most important part is you have to try.

Overall, have an open mind to whatever life gives you. Never stop trying new things, meeting different people, and doing different jobs. Experiment, change, make mistakes, and grow as a person. Approach every situation as an experiment and a chance to learn more about yourself.

What Will People Learn From You?

I’ve always said life is about people. No matter what activity we do, when we leave our houses everyday, it is the people that we encounter that help to make or break our day.

You see, every person that comes into our lives is a new learning experience.

No matter how people treat you, there is something new to learn from them.

That one person who is always there for you shows just how much of a difference an individual can make in one’s life.

Or that coach who pushes you to extremes during practice shows the value of continuous hard work towards a goal.

Or that boss who is able to bring a group of people together to build something amazing shows how much good leadership can make a difference in a company.

Or even just that classmate who lends you a pencil during class shows how such a simple act of generosity can help to make someone’s day go a little more smoothly.

We learn from those around us. And others do the same to us.

That’s what being a person is all about.

No one’s perfect. Everyone’s going through something. We all have our own problems. But that’s okay.

Together we help to figure out things that we didn’t know before.

Whether it’s teaching what to do or what not to do, each person has something to learn from. Never forget that.

Whether a person is nice or mean to you, can’t stop spending time with you or ignores you, loves you or can’t stand you, there is a lesson to learn.

It’s from learning from others that we figure out how we live our lives.

What will people learn from you?

Focus On The Journey

We always have a goal in mind. Whether it’s an academic goal, a career goal, a fitness goal, whatever. We are all trying to get to the next level in whatever we do.

But I think we are too often focused on achieving the goal that we forget to focus on the journey of actually getting there.

I know it sounds cliché, but you really do have to focus on the process of getting there.

We spend 99.9% of our time on the journey, the process, working towards the goal, but only a small amount of time actually achieving it.

I just think that you have to be happy in what you are doing. I’ve said it countless times in my writing, you have to be happy as much as you can because you are never getting this time back.

Sure, achieving a goal is amazing. It’s the best feeling in the world. But is it worth achieving a goal if you are unhappy during the process?

I just don’t think it makes sense to do something that you hate just for a brief moment of fulfillment after accomplishing it.

And at that, I think there are too many things that one can accomplish in life. A lot of the goals that we have can be achieved by doing different things. The are endless avenues to the same destination.

For example, running doesn’t have to be the only way to get in the best shape of your life. You can try swimming or rowing or playing basketball with friends.

The job that you have now isn’t the only way to make money. There are tons of jobs out there that can help you earn an income that you’ll actually enjoy and look forward to going to.

The people that you spend your time with now aren’t the only people on this Earth. There are so many great people that you can meet, you just have put yourself out there.

For me, it all comes back to time. Time is the most important thing one can have. If you are spending it doing something you hate, you are just wasting time.

Time is the only thing you can never get back. If you were to go bankrupt, you can make that money back; if you were to put on a few extra pounds, you can get back in shape; if you were to lose friends, you can make new ones. But if you lose time, that time is gone. It is never coming back.

You have to spend every second of your life doing what you love or it’s time wasted. That’s why I say focus on the journey. Do the things that you love now rather than focusing on that feeling that you may get if you achieve the goal.

There are unlimited possibilities to how a goal can be reached. You just have to find the option that makes you happy.

The Meaning Of Life

I think a lot of people believe that there is only one meaning of life. That we were put on this Earth to contribute in some way then check out.

This meaning can certainly suffice for some people, but I don’t think that it’s the only meaning.

I think the meaning of life comes down to whatever you see it as.

We each give our own lives meaning.

We all are interested in different things. What gives me purpose may not be what gives purpose to another person.

I love creating things so I’m going to do all that I can to create as much as possible. I have plans to continue writing, make music, and create whatever else I want to in the future. Creating gives my life meaning.

But that’s not what might give another person meaning.

There is just so much to do in this world. Whether it’s helping others, coaching a youth sports team, running a business, or volunteering, there are infinite ways to what can give someone’s life meaning.

And it doesn’t have to stop at just one meaning. Along with creating, I want to help people, eventually run a business, and leave this world better than when I got here.

I think what it really comes down to is how you spend the time that you are alive. We only get so much time, so you have to take advantage of every second of it.

Life is fragile, probably a lot more fragile than we think. It can literally change in an instant.

That’s why you can’t waste any time.

We were put on this Earth to experience every moment, to take risks, to do things that push us out of our comfort zone, and to do the things that we love.

Sure, life has its ups and downs. You may lose touch with people you were once close with, make mistakes, or feel like you are not in the right place, but everything is a learning experience.

Every day offers the opportunity to learn and to grow. An opportunity to see the person that you really are. And an opportunity to make the next day even better.

So don’t just exist, go outside an live. Do the things that you really want to do and experience everything this world has to offer. Only then will you find meaning.

Navigating Life’s Choices

Life is a about choices. Some choices are good, some are bad, some seem like good ideas that end up being bad ones, and some seem like bad ideas that end up being good ones.

It’s all of these choices that make up life. Each day we are faced with too many choices to even count.

In most cases, a lot of the choices that we make are easy. We decide on choices like what clothes to wear, what time to leave the house, what foods to eat, and when we go to bed.

And then there are some choices that are not as black-and-white. Such choices like whether or not we try to fit in with different social groups, whether or not to leave certain situations, and how we carry ourselves in rough times.

We are a product of all of these choices that we make each day. The combination of good and bad choices that we make decide who we are.

It’s easy to make a wrong decision. People do it all the time. It’s seems like everyday we read about something someone said or did that has left them in hot water.

We are people; we all mistakes. One mistake does not define you. It’s about how you deal with these mistakes that decides your future.

Good choices can cancel out the bad choices. The consequences of a bad choice are never easy, but they do work out.

Each choice will set you in a new direction. One choice can help you make new friends, while another choice can help you discover something about yourself that you didn’t know before, while another choice can set you off your original path.

All of these different paths that we take are decided by our choices. The beautiful thing is that all of these paths lead to the same place. I think a lot of people forget that “the road less traveled” leads to the same destination.

At the end of the day, if the overwhelming majority of your choices that benefit you and the others around you, the mistakes won’t matter. Your friends and family aren’t going to judge you based on one mistake.

Life has an interesting way of working itself out. With time, all of these mistakes fade away and we can look back and see how much we’ve grown.

It’s about putting the mistakes in your rear view mirror, learning from them, and moving on.

Keep your head up, it’s all going to work out. Never stop navigating through all of life’s choices.

The Definition of Living

As I get older, I’m getting more and more scared of missing out on things in life. Even though I’m 19 and have my whole life ahead of me, I have the fear of missing out on everything that passes me by.

I’ve been able to do a lot so far in my life. I’ve graduated high school and I’m going to college in the fall, I’m swimming in college, I’ve travelled to different parts of the world, and I’ve learned multiple instruments. But I am still not satisfied.

I guess I’m holding on to the idea that we only get a little bit of time on this Earth and I want to experience as much as I can while I’m alive.

I don’t want to get older and have regrets for things I wish I did in life. I want to do everything I possibly can during my time here.

I want to set foot on all seven continents, surf in Australia, climb on an iceberg, see the northern lights, ride a gondola in Venice, swim with a dolphin, see the pyramids in Egypt, and sleep under the stars.

I want to learn a new language, conquer a fear, run a marathon, fly a helicopter, play guitar at a concert, write a book, play chess, learn to cook, and play golf.

I want to love someone, have a family, get a house, buy a car, throw a party, grill on a patio, and settle down.

I don’t want a life where I’m trapped at a desk most of the day. I don’t want a life working a job that I’m not passionate about. That’s not what humans were born to do.

We weren’t meant to only experience these aspects of life through our computer screens or through books, we were meant to go outside and experience these things firsthand.

There is so much to look forward to, but it is only possible by throwing yourself out into the world. There is only so much that the world can do for you, so it is on you to get out there and really experience it.

I want to see what the world has to offer, meet the people that live on this Earth, and make good on why I am living today.

That’s what living is.

The One Plan You Can Have

If you know me personally, you know I like to plan. I constantly want to know what I’m doing the next day, what I’m eating for dinner, and what I want to do in the future. This sort of self-diagnosed OCD in me just wants to know exactly what I’ll be doing later in the day, the next day, and in the future in general.

As I’ve gotten older though, I’ve noticed that plans seldom work out exactly how you want them to. More often than not, you end up doing something completely different than what you planned.

When I was younger, I always wanted to be a doctor. My 13-year-old self would research about different health topics, watch videos on open-heart surgeries, and even bought and read a book from the 1850’s called “Gray’s Anatomy” (I was kind of a nerd back then, and probably still am…).

I planned on living and working in New York City as a cardiothoracic surgeon. But as I got older, I experienced new things, met new people, and my plan shifted.

All of a sudden, I was programming and had my eyes set on becoming a developer at Google.

Now I’m really into entrepreneurship and plan to create a software company.

I think you get the point.

As we all go through life, our thoughts/ideas are shifted by our experiences. Read one book and you’re set on doing one thing, meet someone new and you’re set on something totally different, the process continues.

That’s why I stopped planning.

Rather than focusing on exactly what I’m going to do, I’m focusing on the life I want.

I know in the future that I just want to be happy, live a good life, and be with people that I like being around.

My desire to have these things will shape what I do in life. It doesn’t matter if I’m a surgeon, working at Google, or managing my own company. At the end of the day, what I value will remain the same.

I think that’s really the only thing you can plan. It’s your core values that don’t completely change.

I don’t know what the future holds, but I do know that I’ll have that life when I get older. It’s just a matter of what else I’m doing to maintain that lifestyle.

Be happy (live in the moment and enjoy yourself), live a good life (don’t let a day go by without doing the things that you love), and be with people that you like being around (friends/family).

That’s the plan.